NO, YOU LISTEN TO ME!
Note: word splurge – instant posts drafted & scrambled together with incoherent words
Ohhhh, I am itching to word splurge this morning! The end of the weekday awaits, and the weekend is just around the corner! As I’m typing, I am chomping on my cereal with a strong urge to voice my opinion on the need to be right.
A couple months ago, I’d fallen into a heated discussion with an old friend. He had refused to accept and end our debate on ‘agree to disagree’ terms; his reply to my preposition was due to his “want to be right!”
There has been several instances where people (myself included) have become irretrievably blind to the situation at hand because of the need to be right. Imagine yourself in the heat of a situation – whether it be an argument with your partner or family member, or a discussion-leading-on-debate with friends and colleagues. Within that moment, you somehow become closed off from the initial topic of discussion. In turn, you mentally shield yourself with ‘I NEED TO WIN! I NEED TO BE RIGHT!’ to protect your fragile ego.
During this moment, you become blind to the initial topic of discussion in order to ‘win’, or in your defence, to prove your point.
Why is it that we crave to be correct? Is it because it inflates our ego and affirms our sense of self-worth, or is it a defence mechanism we’ve developed to protect our own values from opposing and intrusive topics?
It’s frustrating, from both ends of the spectrum as we can become remarkably stubborn and closed minded in order to prove our point. Whether it be a defence mechanism, or a means of feeding our ego; if either individual refuse to accept the opposing opinion, the conversation inevitably becomes pointless.
So here’s a question I’d like to propose:
If you’re have a pointless conversation, why should you continue to prove your point?
Stop wasting your time and agree to disagree!
Stop trying to be your version of ‘right’!